WAW tearing up our family part II

[Queen_of_Swords]

She can explain to D how that happened when it comes time. That's not my problem either. As a parent, you want to protect your kids from pain ... but I can't do it. If W is going to screw up this little girl's childhood, there is unfortunately not much I can do about it besides make sure that the time she spends with me is good. Already, daughter is gravitating towards me more than W.

Oh man I feel you here. I resist the urge frequently to tell our kids exactly where things stand. It's not my place. Actions have consequences and so does inaction. H made a choice and the explaining of the why is on him. I can only be the best Mommy I know how to be, and my kids miss me a lot when they're on visitation with their Dad. Ultimately, H. will be the loser, it's so sad he can't see that.

And, I am working on being more sympathetic to what she's experiencing. But, I am REALLY not sure that I can respect her anymore. Just because somebody is confused and going thru pain .... just make anything they do justifiable. While INSANITY may be a valid legal defense, it doesn't make it ok for the victims.

Even the crazy people deserve basic respect for their humanity Ironman. You don't have to respect or agree with what she does, you don't have to support her lousy decision making either. Compassion IronMan, she really isn't aware of what she's doing.
She's flying by the seat of her pants and her emotional state of the moment, there is no higher cognitive functioning going on, not in any real sense. Her emotions cause her to react, the reasoning is not there.
Just like a little kid. A child playing with a ball kicks or throws it into the street, and chases it. So focused on that ball are they that they don't see the truck barrelling down the street toward them. It's that level of awareness you're dealing with IMHO.



You sound like you're in a good emotional place Ironman. Keep it up. You sound strong and confident in what you write.