Abbey, Your husband is having his cake and eating it too. My husband cheated on me and moved out. I let him cake eat badly because I was so afraid it would push him a way further.
You are right! Two years ago when my H told me that one of his issues was that I never initiated sex, I thought my 180 would be to initiate more. So....have been doing that. So, yes, he does have his cake and eat it too. I don't quite know how to resolve that one. I too feel that if I don't, it will push him even closer to OW to satisfy those needs.
Sorry, got cut off for some reason and couldn't edit. Puppy used to put up stats about people catching STDs (and worse) -- I'll look for the link and post it if I can find it. It's way more prevalent among cheating spouses and OPs than even in the general population.
