Cant StandThis Roller Coaster

[John170]

man i need help not giving up. yesterday i was on top of the world today im in the basement

[verysad2day]

You only give up when YOU are ready to give up. When you think you are DONE, give it 48 hours.

[John170]

is it normal to have all these ups and downs on week she talks to me all the time the next i hear nothing from her.

[JustStunned]

Absolutley normal. If it is any consulation she is likely cycleing too.

[John170]

stunned if she is she dang sure aint showing it

[JustStunned]

Of course she will not show this to you. She isn't down just because you are. Her ups and downs are not in synch with yours.

DB tells us not to show being down, doubtful, or needy. This is unattractive.

We are to act as if we a calm, confident and in control. Much more attractive.

To some extent this is commons sense and some people have better instincts. Perhaps your W is one of those.

What she doesn't have is support from the people on this board. You do.

What she doesn't have is the advice from DB or DR. You do.

When she is geting what she wants, life is good, and she is confident.

When reality sets in and life isn’t quite as good she’ll cycle. The question is where will you be? What will you project? When this happens.

[John170]

stunned i know im not showing need or desperate behavior. i love her from a distance though i dont tell her i do. i just come on here and vent

[JustStunned]

John, we are glad you do. It is what we are here for also. I did not mean to imply you were showing such to her.

I have experienced my W's cycleing first hand and had it described to me other times.

It is tough, and sometimes seems overwhelming, but we will make through.

[John170]

i mean one week she is all about me wanting sex talking and everything. the next week she asking about our court date. i think they are all crazy

[John170]

im stopping the sex until she decides she wants me to come home. she cant have her cake and eat it to. im stronger than that