9 sorry man I've been in a bad place all weekend but this is actually very good news and i should not waste the opportunity to help you out if I can. So lets get right to it!!
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She felt she never measured up to me before , now she even feels worse
Pay Attention. She is giving you instructions for success.
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But it will take time
Again she is telling you something here. It will take time.
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She says she NEEDs to be on her own to get her head right and that working back to US would be down the road.
9 she is describing exactly what she needs here. Don't rush it. I know its hard we ALL want to run back into it, the best thing you can do at this point is be patient with her. Be the change you said you would become.
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I tell her that the money I gave her in settlement could be used for positive things. WE could finish our basement like we always wanted to and go on a trip with the kids. And she seemed very happy about those things. I know, moving too fast. Need to slow down
She hasn't moved back yet and you guys are already remodeling the basement? 9! I know the feeling man. I do. YOU must take a deep breathe and proceed slowly for both you benefits.
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She has to get ready for night shift and needs to sleep. She tells me that he is texting her and that she has to respond or he gets really jealous and insecure. I say , let him get insecure and she says that she needs to keep the peace for now.
This will move at her speed. Look she has told you what she wants. She has told you what she wants from you. Now respect ther enought to give it. She is moving towards you.
Be patient and try and calm down tonight. I can't even imagine the elation, confusion, anxiety you are feeling right now. You must maintain and be calm though because as soon as you got here you can kill it.
Go back and read your first few post. That should keep you busy
