Please tell me how it shows codependancy and dysfunction. No that is not what I want. I am trying to figure things out. Can you explain?
See Cylla's post with a list of characteristics. You match a lot of them in your relationship.
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WOW....he said this word for word. He said he felt like I was always trying to measure things.
He's right! Like I said before I do not personally think you are in the right place to even be in a relationship right now. This stood out to me because most people would be thrilled with simply knowing their partner loves them, but you need more.
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He loves me but doesnt want to get stuck in a marriage with me questioning things day after day.
I was questioning his motives early on in things and wondering why he was avoiding marriage. Now I am starting to believe he is smarter than I thought and actually realizes what a marriage to you in your current mindset would be. It is too much pressure for a guy if he knows already that his responses are not good enough. Men are simple creature when it comes to communication and if you want to make it difficult for him then he will continue to feel this way.
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As far as the gaming goes, he has always played this game. He plays with his brother sometimes. BUT I do agree it es escaping from life because my son does the same exact thing.
How does the yard look? How is the honeydew list looking? Is he playing the game more than he is spending time with you? I do not care who he plays with, online gaming is an addiction if it in anyway interferes with your quality of life and ability to accomplish needed tasks within the framework of your home. Here is a simple question that your boy cannot answer for you honestly. Would he rather be playing that game or talking to you?
Ok I will finish with this. I work full time, I am a single parent to my 17 year old daughter, I go to school full time, I coparent my 14 year old son, I bowl in a league just to have some social life, and I also have a lot of friends who i have a hard time keeping in touch with. It may take a month for me to come back on here and respond, and the fact that you approached the fact that I had not responded yet, kind of scream out to me exactly what I have been trying to tell you.
You need to do some work on yourself Renee and get to a place where you are comfortable being alone. Where you do not need anyone telling you what you need to do. Where you are comfortable in your own skin. Are you seeing a therapist? If not I do reccomend it, for you not you and him.
