jbnati, Breathe. Answer sandi2.

A piece of advice I got on this board months ago is "it is over when you say it is over".

The WAS always seems to be in a hurry for the D. So they can move on. In their mind the R is already over and the D makes it official.

The D is only step 2 of 100 and will take months to do amicably. You have time to DB. You do not have to help her fast track the D

BITS
Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill