Uggghh! My gut has turned inside out after that challenging encounter.
After I texted my wife "I think it's better if you pick our son up", I had to take care of our son who just woke up from his nap. She tried calling a couple of times while I was doing that. After I settled our boy with a snack and water, I called her back.
W: Yeees? M: Hello. W: Are you dropping 'E' off? M: No, I think you should pick him up instead. W: Why shouldn't you send him home? M: I think you should be the one picking him up, and not me, because you chose to leave this house. You will have to come out and pick him up. W: Ha-ha, let me remind you that you destroyed this marriage. M: I destroyed this marriage up until you said your 'switch' was turned off. Then you CHOSE to end it...the ball was in your court and you chose to do this. W: If this how you're going to do this, then you can pick him up when I usually drop him off at your house. I was trying to be fair...we take turns picking 'E' up. So now you can pick him up when it's your turn to see him. M: Okay. M: You know, if you were still in this house, this wouldn't be a problem. W: I don't want to hear about this again. (And my wife abruptly hangs up)
When my wife finally comes to the house, I could tell from her tone and energy that she was tantrum-my. I was expecting it, but not expecting how childish it was going to be.
She asked for our son's Mighty Machines DVD that she left in our machine here. She talked about it a week or so ago, but I thought it weird to ask for that straight off the bat. I handed her the DVD.
I also had sitting on the kitchen counter a little cooler bag that I use to take our son's snacks, diapers and whatnot to church, like I did today. My wife then tells me she's taking that, because it's her. I said "Go ahead", matter-of-factly. It's not big deal, but once again, it kinda cracks me up that she decided to take it today. It's been in the kitchen on top of the fridge waaaay before she even started packing her things up, let alone moving out.
Then she talked about the case for the DVD she reclaimed, and we discussed if it's at her new place or lying around somewhere here. After which I said, "If I find it here somewhere, I'll let know you, ok?" She answered, "O, being cooperative now, are we?" I ignored that statement, as well as all the daggers I felt were coming my way during this whole exchange.
So now my head and gut are reeling. I put my foot down, but am not sure if it was worth it. The only difference now is I pick my boy up when she used to drop him off, and vice versa. And she's pissed off.
For me I did it because I felt her assumption that I would do certain things needed to be straightened out. I needed that to be a boundary. But I'm not sure if this was the right circumstance/scenario/situation to bring this up.
