Ninelives,

You are an amazing man.

Your love for her is inspiring.

Only thing I would suggest is for you to consider not make any request or conditions about how to deal with OM until she is firmly in your camp.

It appears to me she's getting there.

Your worst fears have already been realized.

You don't have to compromise any more.

IMHO you deserve to have all or none.

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I am being the possibility of:

1) Integrity
2) Loving myself completely.
3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.

"It's do-able." What are the actions now?