PINCH ME of HIT ME with a 2x4

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So I call her back because I am not very happy with the threat of suicide still looming and i tell her that I may call the authoirities as I am not convinced that she wont do this.

She assures me again that this is not a concern and we talk more about how she is feeling and that she is sorry she ever went down this path and that I wasnt the blame for her unhappiness and that she has always thrived on being unhappy and that she is so unhappy now.

So i say tongue firmly in cheek, you must be exstacic now since your are miserable.

I ask her about OM again and she says he is not the man she thought he was and that she cant tell me everything yet but she is not in love with him.

We talk about when she first came back that she never really tried to make our marriage work. She said she wanted to but wasnt feeling it and had the infatuation with the OM and that she is not mentally stable. I believe that but she contiued to live under our roof, avoid be like the plague and sneak off and have sex with OM.

I say what is it that you want to do. You say that you wish this never happended but you do nothing to fix it. Do you want to work on this realationship and right the ship or do want to contiue down your path of destruction with the loser.

She cries harder and says she wants her old life back but is afraid. I tell her that if she wants to work on the M, I mean really work on the m, we have to accept that our old M is dead and buried and we have to start fresh.

She agrees and then I tell her that she MUST end relationsip with OM . Today. She hesitates on the phone and I say, well if you cant do that, then what chance do we have.

She says she cant do it today but give her time and she will end it but on her terms. I say thats fine but you at least have to stop sleeping with him and kissing him. When I see his truck in your driveway, at least I will have piece of mind that you are not in the sack together. Can you do that I ask>

Again, she hesitates and I say, well if you think I am going to wait around while you bang this guy, then you are in error. You dont have to end it with him but you have to stop sleeping with him. Can you promise me that?

She said she wouldnt sleep with him anymore. Its up to her whether or not she honors that.

Then I say to her. I cant believe we are having this conversation. Why are you feeling this way/. She tells me that she has felt this way for sometime but is afraid or unsure how to proceed. OM left his family for her and she left hers for him and she says that he is very unstable and seems a little frightened of him. She says that he is kind of creepy at times

Which makes me angry that a low life like that is controlling my W. It is well known around our small town that he has had a very sketchy upbringing and EVERYBODY is shocked that my w is with him.