Welcome (officially) to divorcebusting.com! You seem to have really been able to assess your situation as far as your husband is concerned. But that is also my question/flag. You do not seem to be assessing yourself in the patterns of interaction with your husband. You show what you are doing in trying to get a reaction, but you haven't talked about yourself in the 'what went wrong' phase.
That's key. Not that you are the problem...you are actually the solution. DB is an analysis of patterns of interaction. Not just what the person who is checking out of the marriage is doing. What we do is tweak the behaviors of the person who wants to save the marriage in order to change the behaviors of the person who wants to leave...and draw them back in.
