26yrs is this the end

[JustStunned]

Kevc, I agree with Bursting. The best conv I have had with W have only occurred when she wanted to, and I had to remain calm and in control.

When the conv went to a place I could not remain calm I needed to steer it elsewhere or leave. Steering calmly with neutral to positive body language is better than leaving. Leaving then returning when calm and in control is better than an outburst.

Do what you need to do to be confident, calm and in control of yourself. I am glad you are getting more active in your church. There is an enormous amount of support to be had from social groups working with common interests.

Keep the DB principles in mind as you consider the advice you receive from everywhere. Remember what is working in your sitch and keep doing it. Patience, calm purposeful patience will see you through.