I received a call from my wife asking if my daughter had made it to my house to spend the night last night. I told her she had and then she started to say the same things that she has been saying all along. She states she can not come back to the marriage because of the afair after she left me. She now again is stating she plans to date and have an affair as well. She wanted to know why I changed counselors and felt I should have stayed with the same one. I chose this new counselor to see if I could get a new spin on things. I am doing this for me not her. She cycles in different directions everyday. I am tired of defending and justifying myself. I told my wife had she stayed in the house and not told me to date and move on that the affair would never have happened. On the flip side it was nice being treated with love and respect by my lady friend. I was not walking on eggshells and justifying my actions. I still do love my wife but if she refuses counseling and keeps bringing up these issues in the future then things will not work. I told her that I only wanted to discuss my lady friend with a counselor present. I know she is angry and hurt. She did everything she could to interfere with my relationship. Did she do it because she is jealous and unhappy and wants me to be unhappy? The other thought is does she really want to come back to the marriage. I dont see a clear picture throughout all of this. I know I am miserable and tired of the way my life has been going. I dont know what more to do other than hope for a better tomorrow. Bobby O
