Thank youb BM, i think after week 10 im starting to gain that space, same with my reactions, im giving myself time and space. i have reacted to circumtances on the spot, but this weekend i feel i have gained some sort of control over myself. I really feel i dont need to be part of her journey, im happy knowing that its her path she wishes to follow not mine, will be here if and when she wakes up. Have been looking at timelines and all can say is its not so much when it ends but when did it start !!, thinking back she had issues with who she was in 2008, we walked the "rock chick path" she was 47 and a grandmother, and then i noticed her drift from normality, her dating site episodes, her buying younger clothes,her acting uncomfortabily in a look at me sense, so i think we are proberly in a 3rd year of this and yes our children had started to leave the nest, im acting too comfortable in this sitch, she corners me in the "if you loved me" senario, i go dark then i dont love her, not on facebook then i dont care about her, but from now and i feel strong i will be "doing something else", GAL, i cant live with this person anyway so i need to move on, i love her, but i just cant be a passenger anymore......kevc
