Whatever the reason, the only thing YOU need to worry about is you. These are things only (S)HE can figure out. This isn't about you. It is about him/her.
It all comes down to one thing: Personal Responsibility
Unless (s)he takes responsibility for HIS/HER actions instead of blaming you or anything else, then there can be no R. If there isn't that acceptance of his or her own actions, the issues will keep coming up again and again.
Stick to building yourself up. YOU have to outshine everything else (s)he sees right now. You have to be the positive force that guides him/her. Like a moth to a flame. You need to be the flame that burns the brightest.
And this...
Originally Posted By: MrBond
While you can't control what (s)he thinks, you can plant little seeds of positivity that may steer his/her thinking in a positive manner. Compliment him/her at times even when (s)he doesn't reciprocate or says something nasty in response.
I've used the analogy before that MLC is like a hurricane. Your W/H is the hurricane and is destroying everything (s)he held precious. Out of control and going in every direction. You must be like the mountain that stands in its path. No matter what (s)he throws at you, you will stand strong and won't budge. You are the strong (wo)man who will not be moved emotionally or physically.
Thank you Mr. Bond!
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
