26yrs is this the end

[Busting Mode]

Kevc

I remember once when I was in high school, the class was sitting quietly doing homework, when the teacher suddenly stood up and arbitrarily yelled "yellow as pus." Then he just stood there calmly without saying another word.

Well as you can imagine every student in the class was shocked, stunned, totally wondering what the heck was going on. Suddenly we all felt lost, nervous, confused, and we started looking around to see what was going on...

And still he just stood there calmly, letting us fidget for awhile before moving on with the lesson.

What he did was called a "pattern interrupt."

You see we had all been sitting there unconsciously doing as we had been programmed, and he wanted to show us that we had the option of waking up and seeing things a different way.

Kevc have you noticed how in your posts you are running all of your sentences together? That makes me think you are running all of your thoughts together, too.

You need to interrupt that pattern. Start seeing things a different way. Put a little space in between you and all your thoughts. Start training your wild mind to behave the way you want.


Best way to do that is to stop and breathe.
Pause.
Regain control.
The mind follows the breath.
When we slow our breathing down,
we slow our thoughts down, too.

Then our mind and body is in a better place.
It says "Ah. At least I'm breathing. Good."

Now we are in a better place to figure out what is real and decide how to respond.

I encourage you to put some space in between you and your thoughts, your sentences, your feelings and your wife.

You're a good man.

Start setting some boundaries or parameters for yourself about what is and is not acceptable. For you.