I am at a cross roads as to what I want to do. I am not sure at this point………………………………………………………
Honestly, I think the first thing you need to do is somehow avoid these type of conversations. I actually think it is a positive that your W is willing to voice her concerns the way she does, but I would try to make sure she is doing that on her own, or with someone else, not with you right now. I actually think everything you said was great, but I am hearing it from an LBS, not the WAS. I can see her just hearing it all as "I changed! I changed!" That is not going to work.
I know it is hard being so far apart to feel like you can "show her," but that is still exactly what you need to do, and you know that.
"I am a care taker I like to take care of people I like to feel needed. But what I really want is for someone to take care of me."
God, I know this is the exact thing with my W as well. She is an RN, a completely giving person. I took advantage of that, everything was her giving and me taking. Anyways, I can relate I guess.
It is funny how it is easier to give advice than to take it, or at least act on it. But we all know what we should be doing, the trick is just doing it.
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