Good question. I never really thought about that. She has told me so many times that she is unhappy with who she has become and that it was my fault. She is very focused on the kids. She revolves her life around them and has this image of a perfect family that I have been unable to live up to. She told me that people have told her that she would not be able to make it financially and she said she didn't care about money. I think she likes to have full control of her and the kids activities and that is what is driving her. The opposition to her perfect family is out of the way.
-GAL without her/kids-Change in routine-
I have not been able to GAL outside of her and kids. I joined basketball league went to gym a few times but that's it. Neither of them have given me any confidence in myself or taken my mind off of the W.
As for the change in routine, I have done so but it has been doing stuff with kids that I didn't do before. I am always clean shaven and try to dress nice when I around her but I am not sure how to make myself more interesting to her? I thought about maybe buying some new clothes but besides that I really don't know.
-Work she does-
She works at a business owned by my SIL. Answers phones, ships orders etc. She will not be able to support herself financially. We get by paycheck to paycheck as it is. With my CS her income will be cut in half. I really have not brought up $ to her but she is adamant that she could care less about it.
-Me moving out-
This was my decision. We have had problems before and she has told me that she want me out of the house a few times over the last few years. Even before the bomb dropped I knew that our M was on its last breath. I knew I had some serious soul searching to do and that I needed to make real changes. I did not think I would be able to accomplish this by staying in the house. Like I said before, it was a double edge sword, I have made those changes (she said the other day the reason she is flip floping is "you finally changed, after asking you 500 times to do it you finally did it" but once I made the move out and after we explained to kids why I left she says that she would never be able to do this again in the future if things went back to the way they were before. She would be stuck. We got this far why would she put all of us through this again.
Not sure if these are the answers you are looking for. Your thoughts?
