Well, your WAW is certainly the one pulling all the strings in the stitch. Couldn't make you feel too good about yourself, I'd think.
Have a few suggestions & questions.
Sometimes we women say we are unhappy when really we've become very bored with the MR. She may say it's b/c she's not happy with who she's become, but she's putting the blame on you. She is either thinking about a different path or has already flirted with it. That's why she was ready to file but then wanted to wait. On and off....go and stop....hot and cold. What's pulling her strings?
Have you set goals toward becoming a more attractive & interesting male? You can't control her thoughts or behavior, (and please don't try to tell her how she truly feels)... but you can work toward not being dull, routine, and predictable. Have you changed anything about your appearance or habits? Are you able to GAL that doesn't involve her or the kids?
Stop the excuses to contact her. Stop the invites. Stop the R talks.
You really need to stop dropping by her job to see her.....especially to discuss things of a private matter or taking the kids in when you've been out with them. That's not attractive to a lot of WAW's b/c it looks very needy & pursuing. She won't tell you that, but I will.
What type of work does she do? Is she not able to support herself?
Did she ask you to move out of the home or did you think that was what you should do?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
