Hi Seeking and Sanderika, Thanks for your words of wisdom. I'm not sure what to make of all this......H and I had another long skype convo last night but he had no contact otherwise all day. Then I asked about ow. He said she had moved from the area and commented that this should make me happy. Then I asked if they were still a couple and he said I'm still seeing her if that's what you mean. Then he basically said he now wouldn't be in contact and wouldn't be coming to swimming and was gone. So all his talk about communicating properly and not running away failed on the very first sign of a problem.
So what to do? Let him go or keep contact .......... I observed lots of positive changes but underneath it all he is still selfish......
Last night he asked about my parents again and his apology to them. I don't want to be his counsellor. I can't really be a friend because I'll just get hurt and upset when he goes on holidays or concerts with ow. Perhaps he was only softening me for the financial settlement.
However, I still wonder about what's going on. Ow and her son move here from 20 mins away to move in with H and he says they'll see how it goes. He indicates to me that in May he'll stay at my house while I'm away but says she may have moved out by September. He says it's a temporary move but H tells our son it will help his financial situation. Her s changes school. Just a few weeks later she is out of the area. The portrait is gone but the other items are still there. She's moved suburbs as well. Her s will have moved schools again. He reinitiates contact with me. he hasn't told our son she has moved out. Is this just me or does something not add up?
