Today is OK

[Sanderika]

Hi Cas,

I am sorry that he did not tell you they had split.

He told you she has moved to another area.
He told you they are still together.

With that being said, look at the positives you have been given in the past week. Look at his being. Go back and listen to his words. Your H is changing and coming out of the fog. This is the first time in ages that you have had conversations with him that did not convict you and the marriage to doomsville.

He has been more open and candid with you, you have received a genuine sense of his thoughts and feelings. This stuff is real.
He has expressed and is trying to show you/tell you that he is in a place where it is now possible for a reconnection. He has asked for your patience.

Do you give up after you have come so far?

You know the drill....there are many touch and goes before they become more realistic and have promise.

This new positive movement is very different from last year. Last year he appeared to enjoy your company without the honesty and the words and expressions to back it up.

Currently you have not only the enjoyment of your company.....YOU have been given words and feelings and thoughts....

You are under pressure right now to file the paperwork. He is not talking divorce. He is opening his heart and eyes and ears to the possibilities.

Cas, you have the power in your pinky finger to send him sprinting back into the tunnel. AND you have the power to continue to draw him out.

(((Cas)))) I know very well how hard it is to be on a high from H's words and actions as if lifted by a helium balloon only to have H put a bb in my balloon and I fall to earth in a major hurtful heap. I am not sure this is what has happened to you this time.

I am thinking that he is not telling you the whole story so's to keep you without expectations and not to lead you on right from the git go. I have a feeling they are on a break. She made a lot of permanent moves for someone who was in a temporary living arrangement, very weird indeed....especially moving son from a school only do disrupt him again.

My suggestion is play it cool. Wait and watch. Carry on with your day to day. Be the endearing and wonderful Cas that you are to H when he makes contact. Do not look for trouble. You have been in a much worse pickle with him before.

Cas, you can continue on...you can do this without looking like you are waiting for him. You aren't done yet. I know this.

Patience

Timing

Positives

No Expectations

(((((Hugs)))))

Sanderika