I'd say first of all stop beating yourself up for the decision to do the D. At that time, your H was treating you in a very cold and cruel way and you did what you had to do. It seems like you were abe to cope well, but got your equilibrium upset when he started cycling.
IMHO, your H just peeked out of he fog for a bit, saw that you were still there and retreated again.
You will see sitches here where many things keep on happening post-divorce or separation. See Augtan and goodattitudegirls sitches. YOu will learn a bit or two from them.
About your H's relationship with this girl from England - think of it this way .... it probably won't amount to much, and its a FANTASY!
YOu might have to do a lot of work, but it does seem like your H is deep in MLC but it also seems like he still has feelings for you.
What to do.... have you considered doing a telephone consultation with a DB coach?
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
