MLC Purgatory

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Meganna

You are doing a good job at detaching..It gets easier and we get stronger in time
IC is good..It helped me get through it

At first, I had a hard time telling my kids the truth
they were 5 and 11 at the bomb
And I was unclear what the real truth was
Over time, It seemed clearer and right to tell them what I truely believed
Dad was not happy..and needed to figure things out
first he left to work on himself
then he was using and abusing prescription drugs
so he was inconsistant and unavailable due to MLC and addcition
The truth was they had already experienced his erratic behavior
and they were rapidly growing up
Now they are 9 and 15
I think it is best to be honest with them
and to explain the best way we can that thier age can understand

IT was never about them and that point I said and still say it
He loves them and it is not their fault
I also theink it is important to allow them time to talk or cry and verbalize the best way for them
they do heal in time
It is traumatic for everyone in the beginning and they would sometimes watch my cry or hold me
they know we are struggling and I would sad I am sad i miss dad or whatever was my truth
now it is very different
we are somewaht scarred
but all wounds heal and although my kids have spent the last 4 years adjusting and letting go of Dad..they seem ok


good luck
you will find that in time it will all work out
peace