......are these itty bitty baby steps?

[Lost Rabbit]

Wow a date what a brilliant move forward, and its really been instigated as a date, first thing lower those expectations NOW! Yep I know you think you are cool on this but you will have little expectations lurking so bash them on the head lol!

Secondly just be yourself, dont try and over cook this, dress wise suitable for the cinema but perhaps some thing with buttons down the front, so you can fiddle with the top one when youre eating your pizza, wink wink..

Ok I pulled Mr Rabbit on a dinner date, so if you sit opposite each other you can lean in towards them when listening, also you can move your legs around to get comfy under the table and accidently brush legs, "oops sorry got my legs in a pickle" and of course ask lots of questions.. not always immediately as you look silly and as if youre not paying attention, but let him natter on for a bit then go back and get further details on a question, that really shows interest and attention. If you have to wait at the bar, side by side lean into him a bit let him feel you side against him, even lose your balance and fall on him a bit.. Hope it goes well hun!

Back tracking a bit as I reckon I skipped a page of this thread without realising and caught it this morning, but my H's father died when he was ten, he is the youngest of three boys and hes mum was quite frank in saying she had got pregnant on purpose in the hope of a girl.. Also the eldest son was fav cos he was first born and like mum, second was like his father and my darling H was "and he came too"! In fact bless him I say he is more like his Nan his mother's mother. Unfortunately my father is a bossy so and so and never really fulfilled his role with me let alone be surrogate father to H, both sets of parents always believed we wernt right for each other.

At the beginning I can see my "mother hen" mode was much appreciated and gave him security and comfort, but over time my off switch became faulty and H became one of "my boys" not my H. Big mistake on my part but a big mistake on H's part for not pointing out he needed a W not a Mother. She had passed away when we had been married eight years, and again I wonder if he had "rose tinted" his view of her.

Anyway I just found it really interesting that again a parental crisis could have been the trigger for the bomb!

Once again wishing you all the best and will be thinking of you!