The other thing I wanted to say to you is that feelings of worthlessness - the old teddy bear feeling, are a clasic sign of abuse. What Frank Pittman doesn't say and needs to be said, is that adultery is emotional abuse. OK your h may be messed up and having a MLC but as a wise poster has pointed out that is not a free ride to bad behaviour. You have to walk away from abuse. It is the belief that we have no power, or that they will change that gives the abuser emotional power over us.
Once you fully recognise the abuse, and that you are responding to it, and then change that pattern of thinking your feelings of worthlessness should start to recede Takes time to recover though.
