Situation Normal; All Flummoxed Up

[crushednstuck]

Updating. W is talking D. Discussing disposition of liabilities and who owns what. Ominous.
A week ago she managed to pull me into it. I backslid and paid dearly. Not angry, but contested her assertions. I have yet to learn to stay zipped. But the notion that I'm selfish because I attempt to take ownership of my sitch and create a new life is maddening. She's beaten this horse to a messy pulp. My attempts at detaching are continually viewed as confirmation of her need to bail out.

Back to square one. But this time I appear to closer to D. W claims "I'm torturing her". Well, at least it's not me claiming to be victim.

I was re-reading DR and the LRT. Michelle claims there are three reactions to the last resort technique; sudden return, curiosity and ignorance. I will add flat out rage. W calls me selfish for not making her a priority - just like in our M. The difference is that I was selfish when walking away from her rage during our M; now I am walking away and creating her anger.