Now you have all the tools to read. Let us know how your doing and if you have any questions.
I suggest that you read the entire thread in the resources. You can also pick out some people and read their whole story.
The stages of MLC are a template which can only be laid over an MLCer's experience retrospectively. It's impossible to see the pattern until it has finished being laid or the crisis is complete.(nickel Cyrena). So do not be too concerned where your MLC'er is in this process.(Although my general guess is that they are in REPLAY)
Depression is the key to the whole thing and it is always present!
Believe none of what he says and 50% of what he does.
Lets not worry about him. Lets work on you! Start your homework assignments. GAL. Detach. Use the time that your H has given you as a gift to start to work on yourself.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Now you have all the tools to read. Let us know how your doing and if you have any questions.
I suggest that you read the entire thread in the resources. You can also pick out some people and read their whole story.
The stages of MLC are a template which can only be laid over an MLCer's experience retrospectively. It's impossible to see the pattern until it has finished being laid or the crisis is complete.(nickel Cyrena). So do not be too concerned where your MLC'er is in this process.(Although my general guess is that they are in REPLAY)
Depression is the key to the whole thing and it is always present!
Believe none of what he says and 50% of what he does.
Lets not worry about him. Lets work on you! Start your homework assignments. GAL. Detach. Use the time that your H has given you as a gift to start to work on yourself.
The reason the links do not work is the board is updated from time to time and the links are then--unlinked. There will never be a permanent fix, which is unfortunately pretty frustrating. Jamesjohn did most of the linking work around here, and we're grateful. The best thing to do is to COPY the most helpful posts on the Solution Oriented forum.
Help! My husband finally has agreed to read a book about MLC. I have read a ton but want to MAXIMIZE this opportunity to get him the best information. Do people have recommendations about which one is most helpful and illluminating for a man deep into Replay of MLC?
In the resources that I posted above is a thread on book reccomendations.
I do not think giving him a book on MLC is a good idea. It is not going to get him through this journey any faster and could make it worse.
Maybe if I was going to suggest a book it would be one of Jed Diamond's books. Surviviing Male Menopause or Male Menopause.
I learned a lot about this time of my life from those books.
Do not give him this website, IMHO.
Try to stick to one thread if possible. Good luck to you.
