Well, my wife went to court with out me. She was adament about doing it on her own. OM didnt even go with her. The crown wouldnt deal and is asking the judge for jail time. She goes back in 2 weeks to plead guilty to the theft charges and she cant afford a lawyer. I offered her help so she didnt get screwed.
Then things kinda went sideways, she flipped out on me. Said she didnt want my help and support on anything, didnt even want me to contact her any more. She just kinda went nuts about everything. I didnt text her back and she would flip out about something else.
I finally sent this text "i dont know why your angry at me? What i did to deserve this treatment, but if your choice is for no contact from me than i will respect your choice and honor your decision. I wish you the best in the trial, Always me".
This morning i get a text from her "i am sorry i got so upset yesterday. i had a bad day and took it out on you and i shouldnt have done that. sorry"
i didnt respond and she kept sending me apologies.
I do love this women, i think i always will, and i do try to make her smile when ever i can. Instead of talking to her, i just sent her a message before she arrive to get the kids for a visit.
I want you to have sophie (her dog that she left with me) for the weekend with the kids. I know she will make you smile and give you someone to take on your walks.
Served to purposes: #1 made her so happy, my phone went off the hook, she asked for the shampoo, brush, food bowls, bed etc for the dog. Showed that i still cared about her and want to make her smile.
#2 OM wont let her have a dog, so now i am just being the nice guy. I also know, if sophie doesnt sleep in my room with me she growls and barks all night. She will pee in the new environment and she will growl at OM. I just know my dog. This will be stressful for her.
But my wife will remember that i did this act of kindness for her at a bad moment of her life. So it makes me feel good, she saw the happiness in my face when she showed up to get the kids and i had sophie all ready. that act made me happy, and thats what this is about right? doing things to improve myself and make me happier.
There was one situation that happened at her arrival. All 3 of the boys decided to stay home. i told my wife that no matter how much she thinks of OM i have an issue with him being left along with my 7 year old daughter.
Surprisingly she agreed, no questions asked, she called her cousin and made arrangements for D7 to spend the night there while she was working.
I took today as very positive, and i feel great about it. Now i have my 3 boys and about 5 of their friends over tonight on my alone weekend, but i love it. Going to paint the living room tomorrow and then install some new hardwood. Finally finishing off the Honey DO List.
Hopefully someday, that list will grown again. I look forward to it.
