W left in Dec, She said ILYBNILWU. Lack of intamcy, me not showing her enough affection and not being there when she needed. Says she can forgive but not forget.
Filed three weeks ago and divorce to be final in two months.
Only contact is through text message and only about finances and our dog. We have no kids.
Read DR this week and found it very informative on how/why my marriage is where it is.
I have been setting goals and doing things to make myself "new" and more interesting. Mostly for myself cause W and I don't see each other much if at all.
I have been very upbeat in my texts giving only the info needed . Bacically have been in the dark, but that is also how I was leading up to the months prior to our split.
As badly as I would like to do a telephone coaching session, simply cannot afford one as I have been laid off recently.
Time is running out and I'm pretty sure I can't stop this train. I know life will go on, but we were great together, we just ended up in a marital slump the last 1 1/2 years.
I have read alot of the posts on this website and it has helped me through this trying time.
Would someone please give me some input on whether or not you think my approach is on track for my situation.
Read the section in DR on the Last Resort Technique...you are in a situation where it applies. If you're doing anything it says not to do, stop immediately.
BITS M: 35 W: 35 T14, M11 D9, S6 ILYBINILY: June 09 Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11 W came home: 3/17/11 EE: July 2012 Dropped the rope: Oct 2012 Piecing: April 2013 Not piecing: April 2014 Stuck.
Sorry that you find yourself here! First off...try not to think this way
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Time is running out and I'm pretty sure I can't stop this train.
I am glad that you have read DR... Sounds like you are getting on the right track now...
I know it is frustrating when you don't get a reply right away to a post...stick to one thread and post often and you will get more replies. The boards are usually pretty slow on the weekends as everyone is out galing! Hang in there!
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
I've read it in others posts, but jsut to say it again, I think it's great that people who don't even know each other can reach out and sort of hold your hand in a really tough time! Thank You.
I read LRT again, problem with it's suggestions for me is that one of the biggest reasons I'm in this situation is cause I was ALWAYS doing other things. (hobbies)yard work etc, pretty much ignored and took our love for granted thinking it would always be there.
Should I or shouldn't I forward the invitation to her email. If I don't she will take serious offense to this since we are remaining "friendly" with only neccessary contact.
