Islander... I am in a very similar situation as you right now, and i agree with Sandi 100%. I have not pressured my W at all to move forward ... but it is happening ... just at her pace.

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce