Oh, BTW, when I said forget it, I didn't mean to forget about R the M. I meant to forget the notion of her moving back home right now. I think that's what you'll have to do to calm down and stop pushing her. KWIM?
Don't allow the fear you are experiencing to ruin things now.
(hugs)
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!