I think I was afraid to post it, I know it will not be popular, but sent my W the following this morning after the OM's CW called:

"OM's CW left me a message. She wanted to know if you two were living together. I will not return the message. I am very uncomfortable with D in this situation. I really hope you are not subjecting her to your affair. I am worried about what OM's CW could be capable of. I trust you to use good judgement through this."

I won't post it verbatim, but she just responded ensuring me D was safe. No answer as to whether they are living together, or what she subjects our D to.

A little bit later she sends me a message asking how I am feeling and letting me know that D is doing well and she is planting flowers on her patio.

How special for her.

I guess with the last message I at least didn't P her off at me. But I am not responding any more, she is on her own with this craziness. I have to decide whether I believe this is a dangerous situation or not for our D, and if so take action, if not, let it go.

BITS

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.