I guess I don't get why it took the air out. I'd think it would do the opposite. It is hard for her to show that kind of affection, yet she managed to overcome that resistance to try to give to you in a way that was meaningful. She could've just ignored your text. She didn't.
I'd say that pretty awesome of her. Think about it, if she said it was easy for her, you could turn that around to "if it's so easy, why doesn't she do it more." I think sometimes we put our Ws in a no-win situation.
For every kiss and hug, I've gotten recently, I've never commented on it directly. I know it's hard for her, I know it means she's trying - that is enough for me.
My day - started off stressful but GREAT!. My W and I had an MC appt today, but we were running a little late. Our MC is really good. I got a little upset during the session as I feel like much of the talk is about me and the things I'm doing. We focused on our evening last night. My W and I were in the same room - she was on the internet and I was watching TV. No talking between us. it felt weird to me and it generated into a talk between us. The MC had us break it down. From my view it felt like a waste because we weren't doing anything. From my W's view, it felt great because we could share space and just relax. (He said it's actually a good thing when couples can just share space without constant interaction.) The same event - two completely different takes. But we never talked about it before. It got us to really see how the same event can be viewed by each of us and basically to understand the difference. It's kinda hard to describe.
But my W had an aha moment at the end of the session and on the drive back to our house. She thought the session was great and we made some real progress.
So she drops me off at our house to get my car. We get out of the car for her to switch seats and me to go to my car. As we are leaving, she stops, gives me a kiss...then another. Then a hug. then whispers to me "I really love you." I was kinda stunned by managed to say I love you to. Then another kiss and another ILY.
good way to start the day.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
