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I was thinking that I was validating HER by recognizing that it took effort on her part and wasn't easy for her to do....


You DID validate her...however lets be a little honest here. You WERE hoping she would disagree, otherwise, it wouldn't have hurt when she agreed.

While you did validate, you triggered a trap of your own making.



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