I know I planted a seed in her mind that she will be thinking about. I may not see the fruits of this anytime soon, but they will sprout.
Like Zen I hate to be a buzzkill.
Breathe, dial down any expectations. Back off and see wait to see if she nurtures the seeds you think were planted. Don’t pursue, don’t pressure, don’t bring it up. If seeds were planted, and if she nurtures them, she will likely observe and test Keep DB’ing. Make you 180’s permanent. Detach, GAL,
She waved a red flag for you to notice
Of course...I'm not expecting anything to happen overnight. I just know that this seed will grow. It may take 6-12+ months...But I know the reason now and know the changes I am making will eventually show her she can be happy again with me. I am in this for the long haul. It's a marathon.
Originally Posted By: JustStunned
Originally Posted By: Brian in Hville
She told me that everything can be addictive. She said I am now addicted to cleaning. She commented that the house was spotless (She noticed!!!). I told her that I don't clean all the time. I spend maybe 30 minutes when I come home from work
Talk is cheap, show her you have not swapped one addiction for another.
Unfortunately, she isn't home to see that I don't spend much time cleaning. All she see's is the finished product. God...I can't imagine being addicted to cleaning. I've been a lazy bastage for most of my life! I now view cleaning as something that needs to be done and there isn't anyone else to do it but me.
