Journaling: Wow, it's been awhile since I've posted. And where to begin...well, H moved into a condo mid January. Seems ever since then, the late night texting that he was previously doing often has completely stopped since he got his place.
He's not coming to me for answers anymore like previously. We have a schedule down with the kids, he has been having them every other weekend and he also picks them up from school twice a week and spends a couple hours with them (at the house)
We met with a bankruptcy lawyer because we are considering filing Chapter 7. We had 1 divorce discussion regarding the kids, alimony and child support. We don't have a plan. Everything is in limbo because we are waiting to find out if we qualify for Chap. 7 first. We also cannot file for divorce until after that happens, otherwise we would need 2 lawyers, 1 to represent each of us in the bankruptcy case. H is refusing to even pay a mediator to handle the divorce. He believes we can do everything ourselves as long as we agree. My hands are tied because I don't have $$ to try to afford one myself.
His DUI case keeps getting postponed. He is on Match.com...I found this out from a friend of mine who happened to be friends with a girl he tried to hook up with on Match. Evidently he freaked her out because he seemed "too eager" and then she heard he has a bad rep. That he's a liar and cheats all the time and so she told him that she doesn't date "separated" men - when he showed up at a bar (freaked her out) that he knew she was going to.
It appeared that after that transpired, I got a nasty, nasty text from him in response to a text I sent him asking if he heard anything from the bankruptcy lawyer yet and where we stand because we cannot move forward with anything until that starts. So, the text from him said (and mind you, he had no idea that I knew about the whole Match date thing and the girl) - anyway he said "No, and we need to get this *^&^ done..I can't live like this anymore..you have guys that know you talking %^&% about me and how I am nothing but a lying piece of ^&%^ that cheats all the time..I want out and I need a life...I am so F&%$#*$& pissed off right now..I hate everything!"
So I replied with "I agree and that's why I asked if you heard from the bankrptcy lawyer so that we can move forward"
Then I get "Tell people you know to keep m y name out of their mouth and mind their own business...you know what I will do..%*^% everyone...^%$*$ you and all of your do gooder friends...if I find out who's talking %&$* I am going to prectice my kung fu all over that mot&&%*% f4$%$^..I'm done being nice in any way!"
My reply: "I don't know what you're talking about"
Then he got into a whole elaborate lie about how all of it transpired - ya know, leaving out the part about being on Match.com and just acting like it was something that occurred on facebook. But I know the truth. he he.
He went off a few more times, to which I just replied with a "yeah, it's a small world" and "don't you think the general public is aware of things you've done? Doesn't necessarily have to be someone that knows me that's talking crap" And then I told him to stop taking it out on me. He then apologized that night and the next morning, numerous times. I never brought it up again.
