Yes this is what I mean. For me hanging on to slim hopes means not detaching. It's either hang on or move on. That doesn't mean I've closed the door. I just can't stand there holding it open for someone I don't even know anymore. I don't desire the present version of W or a return to the troubled M we had. So yes, everything has to be new.
Ahh, I remember that feeling. It is part of the detachment. See youre making changes to better yourself, that's a good thing. You know things won't go back to the way the were before. However your(my) W doesn't see that yet. They are being controlled be their fear of the past.
It is up to them to force that fear and decide they want a better life too.
Unfortunately, some never get to that point(my W). They either have too much pride to admit things can change or they are allowing their fear to control their lives. Both not good.
It is best to detach and live forward for ourselves. If/ when they have the courage things will change for them.
A good friend told me:
When the pain of where you are becomes greater than the fear of where you're going, then change can occur. Gr8
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