I think your Mum is a very wise lady indeed. I wonder if she has a premonition. Hmmm They sound like wonderful people and will do the right thing for YOU and H once this reaches the point that he can make his apology and humble himself fully. They love you and will want for you.... what you want for you.
Exactly!
Originally Posted By: Sanderika
Cas, I think H will be able to make this apology. I think for him to mention it now twice to you and has not changed his mind is a grand step forward. Think about it....he is able to talk with you about this with getting defensive, WOW!!
All his conversations of late have revealed the softer side and his ability to listen, consider and respond. This is the side I him that I have really missed.
Originally Posted By: Sanderika
Please keep the Christmas ideas to yourself. It is way to soon to even plant that seed. It might be too much pressure on H's fragile state right now. All in good time. Remember timing??
I have no intention of mentioning this at all, Sanderika. I commented on it in relation to my mum who not too long ago wanted nothing to do with him at all but now has softened and opened her heart to him.
Originally Posted By: Sanderika
Timing goes hand in hand with patience. Patience is what you have got to use every minute now. You backslide and he will for sure. Cas, you know how to do this. I am sure you son;t need me to keep preaching the rules. I want this for you so bad.
H has told me to be patient. I might know the rules Sanderika but I will need constant reminders
Originally Posted By: Sanderika
About the OW.....I think she's gone. Now that you have asked, H will tell you what happened, he suggested next time he sees you, OMG he isn't dodging this......HUGE!!! It could be that he did not expect that question and at least he didn't get angry or defensive. Anger and defense would have told you proof positive that she is still around.
I think she is gone too but my cynical and untrusting side needs to know. Good suggestion that perhaps he didn't expect this.
Several texts tonight from H about D and her swimming.
Thanks again Sanderika and thanks for watching out for my posts. Know how much I value your opinions. I hope and pray that you are travelling along ok.
They sound like wonderful people and will do the right thing for YOU and H once this reaches the point that he can make his apology and humble himself fully. They love you and will want for you.... what you want for you. 