Today is OK

[Sanderika]

(((((Cas)))))

I think your Mum is a very wise lady indeed. I wonder if she has a premonition. Hmmm

They sound like wonderful people and will do the right thing for YOU and H once this reaches the point that he can make his apology and humble himself fully. They love you and will want for you.... what you want for you.

Cas, I think H will be able to make this apology. I think for him to mention it now twice to you and has not changed his mind is a grand step forward. Think about it....he is able to talk with you about this with getting defensive, WOW!!

Please keep the Christmas ideas to yourself. It is way to soon to even plant that seed. It might be too much pressure on H's fragile state right now. All in good time. Remember timing??
Timing goes hand in hand with patience. Patience is what you have got to use every minute now. You backslide and he will for sure.

Another thing is not to show any disgust or put-off attitudes with him present or near for that matter. He is watching even closer right now, imo. Maintain your cool and calm. If you need to vent go and do it all alone somewhere and let it rip OR come here and shout away. You will want to before this is settled.

Cas, you know how to do this. I am sure you son;t need me to keep preaching the rules. I want this for you so bad.

About the OW.....I think she's gone. Now that you have asked, H will tell you what happened, he suggested next time he sees you, OMG he isn't dodging this......HUGE!!! It could be that he did not expect that question and at least he didn't get angry or defensive.

Anger and defense would have told you proof positive that she is still around.

H is making positive forward movement....YES he is.

He may backslide without warning. From what I have learned this will be normal behavior as he emerges and not something to really get all too worried about.

This is what you have worked to get back. This is what it looks like when they begin the journey back to themselves and home.

(((((Cas)))))

Sanderika