hey Rabbit, Perhaps I'm just cynical but this is a bit surreal and I am by nature, impatient. I can't stand the lack of contact! I keep thinking that ow is still there lurking. The more conversations we have, the more I feel H is thinking and examining everything. He wants peace and he needs the out clause which I have given by telling him we both have fears and hurt and that we should just take it a day at a time. Thanks for your love and support