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Afterward, she checked in on me on how I was feeling. She has been bringing up my B-Day a lot the last week..
She's cheating on you but want to do something for your Bday? That just does not compute.
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All I can get out of all that is at least she still thinks of me.
Image how much she will be thinking about you once you show her you're moving on with or life? She's on the fence right now deciding what to do. The one side is this new OM that makes me feel so good. He makes me feel excitement. On the other side is comfort, a forgiving man that I can fall back on if things don't work out with OM.
Removing yourself from the equtaion will have her thinking more about you and what she is really giving up.
Why do you allow her to come buy the house? Does she still pay the mortgage with you?
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How can she not see what a ridiculous little world she has created for herself?
How did Christopher Columbus convince people the world was round after it has been flat since the beginning of time? People see/believe what they want to believe. You cannot reason logically with a WAW.
She is being led by her feelings.
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Nothing serious. Like I said, asked how I was feeling. Gave me some advice, she is an RN. Asked about D. Told me about the crazy OM's W. Money she owes me. Stuff like that.
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She's cheating on you but want to do something for your Bday? That just does not compute.
Trust me, I know. None of this computes to me. My guess, she will do something small and it will be from our D, not from her. We'll see.
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Image how much she will be thinking about you once you show her you're moving on with or life? She's on the fence right now deciding what to do. The one side is this new OM that makes me feel so good. He makes me feel excitement. On the other side is comfort, a forgiving man that I can fall back on if things don't work out with OM.
Removing yourself from the equtaion will have her thinking more about you and what she is really giving up.
This does make sense. In a lot of ways I am moving on. The balance there is still just tough for me. Especially with our D involved. Like I said, I do ignore her text quite a bit, I am always short when I do reply. I will talk to the DB coach about this again, see if there is anything I should change here.
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Why do you allow her to come buy the house? Does she still pay the mortgage with you?
Yeah, she does.
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How did Christopher Columbus convince people the world was round after it has been flat since the beginning of time? People see/believe what they want to believe. You cannot reason logically with a WAW.
She is being led by her feelings.
I know, one thing is for certain, she is not acting logically. I understand that. I tried early on, realized that it is impossible. Who knows if she will ever step back and look at what she is doing. IDK, not in my power to convince her, I know that.
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Anyways, my W ended up taking the night off and took our D so I don't get her sick. The daycare is close to our house. After she picked up our D she stopped by and brought me Jamba Juice. Man she looked good, and for a minute there we made significant eye contact and she just smiled, it was a look I haven't seen in a while. I just can't believe she did that, and that look. I actually got choked up after she left. First time in a long time.
She asked again if there was anything I wanted for my B-Day, I said no. She made reference to a picture from my D.
Man, I don't know if it is being sick or what, but this is the most emotional I have been over all this since it started. That look, I can't get it out of my head...
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
I am afraid I don't know what look you are refering too. It tell me though that regardless of the look you love your W and are not ready to start dating.
It tells me though that regardless of the look you love your W and are not ready to start dating.
I believe this too. That is why it is important to set them free. CS, What have you don't lately to be happy for yourself?
I know the attention from OW makes us feel good, who wouldn't like the attention.
Hope you're feeling better today. That flu bug is nasty this year.
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I decided to test the waters a little last night. For the first time in a while, I contacted the W about something other than a necessity. I asked her if she still wanted to play that game. She replied back, yes but later, after D goes to bed.
Well, nothing, nada, zilch. I guess an A keeps a person pretty busy.
It was a wake up call for me. She may be nice to me, but she is still gone. I need to move on.
The OW does make me happy, why is that such a bad idea?
I have also been playing my guitar and reading. Once weather gets better I can get out golfing more and mtn. biking. I have quite a bit of stuff to keep myself happy. She will be on her own for a while.
If I feel up to it, I am supposed to go see some live music tonight. One of my favorite things. Doing things for ME. I can dig it.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
I decided to test the waters a little last night. For the first time in a while, I contacted the W about something other than a necessity. I asked her if she still wanted to play that game. She replied back, yes but later, after D goes to bed
This is was the LBSs continue to make mistakes. You "test" the waters. That comes off needy and clingy Please do not make this mistake again. An old poster here(Coach) once said: How do you get a cat to play with you?
You can't case it, it will run away. You have to spark its interest. Being mysterious will spark their interest.
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It was a wake up call for me. She may be nice to me, but she is still gone. I need to move on
Moving on does not mean giving up. Moving on is self love. It helps us to be a better person. If we can't love ourself how can we give love to another?
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The OW does make me happy, why is that such a bad idea?
Honestly, I don't think you're emotionally ready to date OW. That's not fair to your healing process and it's not fair to OW.
OUtdoor activities coming soon, great! Get back into shape, start dressing nicer, smell good do different things.
The following statement put me in the right mind set for detaching. "Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?" Think about that the often. Don't we deserve better than what were experiencing now?
Enjoy the live music, it's one of my interests too. gr8
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