Nine, I think you need to think of yourself and your children first. Which you clearly are doing by staying home and taking care of them. I commend you for your actions. You are being the better parent, no doubt. And, I think you should be commended for wanting to keep her safe. We all still love our WAS's no matter what they have done.
But, on the flip side, you are not there to bail her out. She walked and you don't owe her anything other than to be her friend for now. If she doesn't have some time to sit in the hot water she has poured for herself, she is never going to look inside and truly find out what she wants. You don't need to rescue her. If she thinks that you are a "security blanket," she will not respect you or change for the better. If she struggles, listen, be a friend, but don't bail her out. At least not yet. There will come a time for that, but now is not that time. There is nothing wrong with smiling and giving her a hug as you tell her the bank is closed.
JB3 is also correct. Sounds like there might be some regret there and, remember, you are not "ex's" yet...
Keep your head up, buddy!
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
