I don't have any advice, I just wanted to say that I've been trying to keep up with your sitch and that you and your kids have been in my prayers. I can't imagine going through this with 2 small children but you are doing a good job of holding it together. I hope your H gets his head back on straight soon.
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11