When life hands you lemons add alcohol and stir!

[MichelleLT]

Now, I'm letting him take the lead with his feelings. I make sure to respond to him with enthusiasm but not being over the top about it. It's becoming more obvious to me that something between us has shifted in a very positive way. He actually thanked me the other day for being so supportive of him and not hassling him about getting a different job.

WOOT!!!! The power of positive reinforcement vs nagging. It's all in the actions, both of yours.

Decided I had to stop trying to convince myself that I could do it at home. I have an elliptical in my living room and I use it but only about once a week and I need MUCH more than that. When I walk in my front door the last thing I want to do is keep moving. I need to do my housework, cook, and then PLOP!!!! LOL

I hear that. if I didn't have the dog whining to get out and do something I'd have a lot less motivation to go running after work.

One more great thing! I got a Kindle. Loving it already. My friend turned me on to a website that has listings of free ebooks to download on Amazon. PERFECT!!! Free is great!!! This is the BEST way to carry books on the cruise. I plan on doing a lot of reading in the sun.

BF got me one for Christmas. I've downloaded over 70 free books so far. It's great isn't it?

Last...what can you all tell me about tanning? I have never, ever been to a tanning bed but I was warned by a few people that I should put a layer of color on before I set foot on this cruise ship or I could make myself miserable for the length of the cruise because I turn to instant lobster in the sun. With a layer of color and SPF50 at all times I should be ok. Trust me, SPF50 alone doesn't work for me. I burn right through it even reapplying every 30 minutes. It's really horrible. It's all the darned red undertones in my hair.

Wear sunscreen in the tanning bed. They're just as bad, if not worse, than real sun. Short stints spread out over a few weeks. Then lots of sunscreen on your trip of course. And a floppy hat. You are going to have sooo much fun!!

[Kalni]

oh mish!!! I love the way you are realising how things work...

He is opening up and you are letting him. Maybe some us had to realise that when we let them, instead of chasing them around, they do take steps towards us, not away from us.

I am so happy for you sweets. I want the best for you.
Love
K

[Dagny-2]

Hi Mish,

It has been a long time and you have been on quite the roller-coaster ride, but love that it is in a decent set of turns at the moment. I often think back to the advice you gave me - re giving advice to self, haven't followed it enough, but thought about it. I'm trying to figure out how to start one Zumba class a week -- 900 calories -- that is amazing. I'm in the worst shape of my entire life. Sounds like it is time for you to dust the DB book off (or load it to your kindle) and practice some of the techniques--keep these good things going. Glad it is going well.

I like doing a few sessions a week, spread out, to get a mild base tan so I don't spend my time burnt to a crisp. I think doing it every 5 years or so won't hurt anymore than a 2nd degree burn would. Have fun1

Dagny

[oldtimer]

Not according to Mayo Clinic. See these two...


http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/tanning/AN00589

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/health-tip/HT00106/rss=6

[kat727]

Hate to give the reminder: I just had skin cancer. I was not a sun child in anyway and always used sunscreen when I knew I was goign to be out. I say don't do it. The scars aren't worth it.

kat

[kat727]

Well and neither is your health. Just saying!

kat

[Reincarnated]

I am possibly the whitest-white girl you may ever come to know. I've been seeing a dermatologist since my 20's to keep an eye on things, and one thing she stressed is that a tan is skin damage. Any tan.
Load up on the sunscreen and then have a GREAT time!!!

[mishka422]

Yeah, I decided agaist the tanning. I'm just going to slather myself in more sunscreen than I've ever used in my life and hope for the best! I just don't want to end up miserable.

Big hat - check
Vat of sunscreen - check

[AliSuddenly]

I use a natural body tanning moisturiser (think it contains walnut extract)to give a base tan before going away and then.. keep slapping on the factor 20, yes. My moles have gotton huge since being pregnant, really worries me...

[AliSuddenly]

oh ps forgot to say, wonderful news about Gabe!! See it works hey, if you leave space for them to step toward you in their own time and under no pressure, they do and its great you always respond so positively.