Is anyone one the board right now. Ive had a horrible day. I cant handle much more of this. Ive been hoping for maybe a chance that H would come back. I found out today he was with OW again 2 weekends ago. I haven t heard from him in over 2 weeks. I want to be mad at him but i cant be. I miss him terribly. We have been M for 29 years. Ups and downs of course throughout. He left in dec.2010. File D papers in Feb.2010. Do these affairs last? Its an out of state on too. He has just lost his family. Is it worth it to him? Im so devastated today. I cant get pass this no matter how many people tell me or how hard i try. Do they come back? Do they come back after they file papers? How does someone he got reacquainted with after 35 years make him want to lose his family? Someone, anyone if you have a minute could you answer.
________________________________ Me 51, H56 married 29 yrs together 34 S 27, D 25, D 22 bomb 12-6-10 served 2-6-10
I don't know the answers to many of your questions Rue. I'm in the same place, more or less. I will tell you one thing that I have learned. You know those occasional stories you read of 80 year old people meeting up with their high school sweethearts and marrying? They gush about the other person and tell the reporter how their sweetheart has not changed in appearance or is just as beautiful as the day they met...etc.etc? I guarantee you that these high school sweethearts had had sex. They imprinted on one another, oxytocin is a powerful thing.
This might explain what you're observing.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
