My long story about my young marriage. Any hope?

[BlindTEENA]

1: Your husband does not know much about relationships, except with you
2: You have a depression/anxiety which can cause you to be clingy and needy
3: You guys did not grow up with role models who had good marriages.

Hey Smash

Sorry for what you are going through. To answer your question about Quarter Life Crisis; I say YES! I am in a situation very similar to yours (check my post when you get a chance). My husband and I have been married for 5 yrs; were 27. He was a GREAT husband up until about 4 mths prior to dropping the bomb. This is what is keeping me hoping for reconciliation. I can't judge him on his behavior within the last few months; I judge him on the 9 years we have been together.
Like your husband, mine has never lived on his own or lived the single life and it was like something clicked in his head and he all of a sudden wanted to be single.
I also suffered from depression and anxiety. After my mom passed away I became extremely needy/dependent on him and he couldn't handle it.
Also, we didn't really have role models of great marriages in our lives; my husband doesn't even have one role model of a decent man in his life so he doesn't even know how/what to really do.
Only you can decide if he is worth the "hope"
For me, I found that it is ok to hope because at the end of the day this is still the man that I want to spend the rest of my life with and be the father of my kids. However, alot of things would have to change with BOTH of us in order to get to that point. So all I can do is work on me right now. We can not control what they do. I believe that if a man truly wants to be with a woman; nothing in the world can keep them away.
You know that saying; Let it go and if it comes back, you'll know that it was meant to be? I truly believe in it.
I know that it hurts like HELL. Trust me; I know what your going through. I spent a MONTH in bed depressed an paralyzed. It will get a little easier; day by day.
I did the "stalking" too and eventually it helped me to see that my husband was indeed in some sort of crisis because his behavior was completely left field for him. So eventually I just stopped checking because it just re-confirmed what I already knew; which is he wanted to live the single life.
My husband has rented an apt and seems to be on the fast track; I don't see reconciliation in our near future.
All I can do is work on being the best me that I can be. If he ever decided that he wanted to work on our marriage and I still wanted to then it would be a new beginning and if not; Life must go ON!
Warm Hugs.