Standing up to the punches

[Redo]

Karma, I am glad you’re feeling better about yourself. Confidence is infectious. We all need more of it.

In another thread I read a post from you about all of your hobbies and how they contributed to your sitch. IMO I don’t think abandoning them all is necessarily a good thing. Moderation might be better.

One of my W’s complaints about me was she felt like we were joined at the hip. When we were courting, we were and she liked it. We would even walk 180 out of synch and match stride so our near legs would be in contact with each other.

My point is when she complained about being joined at the hip, she was asking for some detachment. A hobby or two might have enabled me to give her that, and I might not be here now.

JS, Yup, you maybe right about the moderation. But i think i think in my case it was excessive. I had R/C, woodworking, metalworking (lathe, mill), welding, and i was planning on buying a CNC machine. I think i went crazy over to hobbies because i found some peace in these machines. I knew that our R was hitting the rocks. So rather than work on it, i took a distraction approach. Thats why this step. Since i am an introvert, i think my new hobbies will be meeting people. That's one of my 180's. I am trying to do things that involve people and not machines.

In your case, i dont see anything wrong in being close to your wife. I think women like that. But yea i can see where that can cause hurt, especially when you are going through this situation.

I am trying to enjoy this moment. I dont have many of these nowadays. Who knows, i might go back into my hole tomorrow