It appears that your H is facing his wrongs and is very much remorseful for his actions. I guess it makes sense that he has a low opinion of himself, it seems this is happening "suddenly" for him so his self esteem must have him really low right now "waking" and "realizing" to all of the destruction, pain and hurts he has caused to his wonderful family.
This is all so positive for you, daughter and son and families.
I would have to say he has been really thinking hard and wants to right all his wrongs.
At this early stage for him to think of your parents is remarkable to me. I am no expert, this has to be the most difficult for him to face. I am glad he has told you what he thinking to do and am further pleased he validated your concern and wants to think about an approach to them.
Cas, BIG BIG hugs to you today!!!
You can help H make this reconnection at this time to all of you. I think if you continue to show support and nurture him with reassuring words and gestures that he cannot deny he will trust it to be real. He will slowly continue to emerge and make the right choices, he will realize everyone forgives him. Make him warm and wanted, stomp out his fears!!
It will be most beneficial to H if your parents can verbally forgive H for what he has done. They then must be kind to him and treat him well. They need to realize that this was very hard for him and it took a lot for him to face them.
(((((Cas))))) I am praying every hour that this is your turn and H is on his way home.
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
