Bolt... I don't know. I'm of two minds about this. I do see a need to bring it up at some point. I see piecing where you get to express some of your need.
But I don't know if I like the wounded puppy approach. Anything you would say I would add something like "I know that you aren't there yet and I"m not trying to pressure you." or something.
Unless your W is totally clueless, she knows you miss that stuff. I'm sure she'd like it to when she's ready. I think you have to acknowledge how difficult those things are for her. I do wonder if those conversations put pressure on her or do they plant the seed?
Also, if you have the convo, have it once and don't bring it up again and again. Lord I made that mistake.
As for me, I only noticed dividends when I stopped talk about it, stopped looking for it and stopped expecting it.
Three times this week my W told me she loved me. (she also told me I was a great husband and dad) Mind you she hasn't said anything like this since Mid Dec. She is also starting to show affection - gave me a hug and kiss this morning.
I guess that's not really an answer or advice.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
