Been posting off and on for several years. I have had it with my H. He is upset with me seeing a therapist for counseling. the counselor is appalled at the way H treats me. Since I grew up with an explosive father, I just thought explosive temper tantrums were what all husbands did to their wives, lol. Anyway, no more! He had a temper tantum 1 week ago, when I put up my boundaries and said, ENOUGH. Then later that night I attempted to talk to him and tell him how much his temper eruptions hurt me. I spoke in an almost monotone. his reaction: he turned his head as if he did not even hear me and left the room. This has been his reaction when I try to tell him how I feel for years. He either ignores me or twists and manipulates me into believing it is my fault and my problem. How can I stay married to someone who will absolutely not communicate with me about our relationship? Anyway, it all came to a head yesterday when I was in so much pain I spilled my guts to a friend. I have kept most of this to myself and my therapist, but I just couldn't take it anymore. Anyway, she (being twice divorced) told me to put every cent in my name, put the house in my name, cars, etc and "fight for my marriage" from a position of strength. I might as well set the house on fire from H's perspective - he loves playing with his money. He would have a stroke! Any ideas out there? I could use some advice.
