......are these itty bitty baby steps?

[Lost Rabbit]

Totally agree with you, even a friendship where one half puts more effort in than the other is very wearing at times. I think your email was good, ok you could say pursuing or you could say being inventive and owning your own stress and offering solutions, if he takes them all well and good if he doesnt back of and do your own thing.. I find when I back off Mr Rabbit and go a bit dim he has started to realise its his responsibility to nurture our relationship as much as its mine.. I have just had three weeks off and Mr Rabbit had time off to do things for himself but didnt seem to enthuastic about US time, so I mention Im feeling a bit neglected and would like similar attention as his hobby and leave it at that... About a week later he mentions it would be good to go away for a weekend together and recharge batteries.. TBH your Mr GAG has too much on his plate to come to the table at the moment, he is still trying to have his cake and eat it on a tray balanced on his lap whilst juggling something else as well, so if you want my honest opinion back off and leave this till MIL has passed.. Be there for him, pass him tissues, look after MIL for your peace of mind not his.. but also take time out to look after yourself. Mr GAG might not like to be told but you are your sole carer now and care for yourself you must, you have it high on your priority list! Enough of my nagging take care Rabbit x